I really have no business complaining. I have a husband, who is a very hands-on father, a sister who babysits from time to time AND a nanny two days a week for 10 hours and I still feel like I'm drowning.
I'm drowning in obligations or things I feel like I should be doing and never seem to find the time to get to. Am I alone?
Sure, we are just coming out of a holiday season, which is busy and overwhelming for everyone. And yes, we did just moved and it will be a while before the dust has settled, the boxes are all empty and the piles have disappeared, but nevertheless, my 'To Do' is long and grows daily. Here are some of the items currently at the top:
- Find new pediatrician.
- Find new general practitioner and dentist.
- Write and send holiday thank you cards.
- Call umpteen companies and change our address.
- Figure out a plan on how and when to start potty training Lucas.
- Hire a picture hanger (don't ask, just trust me when I say that it will save my marriage by doing this).
- Go through closet, bathroom products, books and photos. Organize!!
- Get my ass back into the gym.
- Start researching nursery schools.
It goes on and on and on from there...
I realize none of these things are dire, but they weigh heavily on my mind.
How do you find the time to stay fit, connect with your spouse, spend quality time with family and friends, have a coherent conversation on the phone, keep a daily blog, read blogs daily, read anything, watch your favorite shows, shop for a wedding gift, make dinner, stay on top of the laundry, etc., etc., etc.?! How do you do it all? And better yet, how do you do it all WITHOUT the guilt? How do you do it and still be present for your child?
Please don't say "better time management" or "by prioritizing", because I think I'm pretty good at both of those. My problem is that once Lucas goes down for a nap or it's bedtime, or I happen to have some "me time", I honestly need the time to decompress, gather myself and my thoughts and have absolutely zero desire to jump into a task. I need the quiet.
Since becoming a mother, I have found that boredom is SO underrated.
So, again, how do you do it?
Stay up all night?
I really want to know. What are your best tips and tricks?