I am proud to say that Liz is also my fairy blogmother and has advised me on several blogging quandaries with an ease and candor that I respect.
She has to be one of the busiest and most dedicated bloggers in the blogosphere. On top of all the writing she does, I rarely visit a blog that she hasn't already been to and left a heartfelt comment.
Everyone loves Liz, but if for some reason you aren't already following her on Facebook, Twitter (she tweets a lot!!), her BBCD Blog Frog Community, or Our Mommyhood, you must be living under a rock or have terrible Internet access and need to right away!
I am happy to have Liz here today and so, without further adieu, here what "normal" looks like in her home.
I'm so honored to be posting at Letters For Lucas today, though I was even more honored the day Tonya asked me to be her fairy blogmother!
When Tonya and I were talking about this guest post, she asked me about my "Normal." It's kinda funny that she chose that topic because it's something my husband and I talk a lot about.
He and I moved states away from all our family and friends, and everything we knew, over 7 years ago. We hadn't been married even 2 years when he accepted his first outside sales position, so all the "life accomplishments" you do as a married couple pretty much began after our relocation.
Like, our first (and second and third) home.
And countless new jobs and promotions.
Right from the start, our Normal wasn't typical.
Another big part of our Normal is that my husband works out of the home. All the time. As in, there is no physical building nor company location within 500 miles of us.
A lot of people's minds are truly boggled by this, and I'm not sure why. Though once they seem to process this abnormal bit of information, the next question is always, "How is it having your husband around the house all day, every day?"
I usually giggle and say, "It's a good thing we like each other, because we certainly do spend a LOT of time together!"
He and I are both creatures of habit, which I find to be a good thing. Plus, kids thrive with routine. Since I'm home with them all day, every day, our family routine definitely helps me with the kid wrangling. And working out of the home takes a LOT of discipline, so routine is helpful to his productivity and success, too.
Our routine nature and his working out of the home also means that all he has to do is catch a whiff of what's cooking, glance at the clock to see if it's 5 or so, and walk downstairs so we can eat dinner as a family.
Again, not very Normal.
I completely realize that we have some unique benefits with our current set-up. But with all the good come sacrifices, too, like relocation and being a part-time single mom when he's on the road overnight for work.
So, I guess my Normal could be summed up as this:
-Husband works out of the home
-Husband travels overnight for work
-Dinner at 5
It would be hard for me to imagine what life would be like if Craig suddenly had an office job or if I began working full-time, just like other people can't imagine having their spouse around the house all day or picking up their lives and moving like we have.
And I totally get that.
And respect that.
Because we each have our own Normal.
What is your Normal like? Would you change your Normal?